Forgiveness

There are some people I can't seem to forgive. 

I read recently that forgiveness doesn't mean you have to say the behavior was okay, or even that you have to communicate your forgiveness to the other person.

Apparently to forgive another is to forgive yourself.

Forgiveness isn't something you do for the other, it's something that you do for yourself. You release the stranglehold that another has had on you.

And I can't seem to do it. 

Without forgiveness I can't heal. Without forgiveness my growth is stunted.

In a recent documentary I watched, there was a line that stuck out for me. It was apparently directed at addicts, but I think it's great advice for anyone seeking to live in the here and the now: do the right next thing.  Don't think too big. Don't "finish the marathon" before you've even started out. Just run the next step.

From experience, I know forgiveness takes time. I have forgiven. I just haven't forgiven some. I know it's not good for me. I've carried this unforgiven with me for too long.

So, I'm just going to do the right next thing, until I get to the point that forgiveness is possible. 

I wonder if there's an instruction book on Forgiveness?